Monthly Archives: December 2019

Surviving Just Another New Year’s Eve

Tweet Surviving Just Another New Year’s Eve – Barry Manilow sang about it, another year of auld lang syne… I am not being maudlin (isn’t that a cool word?) because actually the definition says that often tearful sadness is accompanied by booze. I am drinking coffee. It is just another night for me.  It was […]

Surviving the Shock of the Change that Comes with Grief

Tweet One minute we were finishing dinner and enjoying a glass of wine and in the blink of an eye Larry had a massive stroke and died in my arms.  Talk about the shock that comes with change, this was classic PTSD. Suddenly things that mattered to me every damn day of the week were […]

Surviving the Realization That Holiday Traditions Died Too

Tweet There are times when my grief brain keeps me from making a connection possibly it is protecting me from sadness and overwhelm and I am grateful for that.   Take yesterday for example when it hit me that when Larry died so did every tradition we created together. I had not thought about that […]

Surviving So This is Christmas (When Grieving or Knowing Someone Who Is)

Tweet So, this is Christmas, and what have you done?  The song plays in my head a lot at this time of the year because I am writing a second book already about grief and the holidays. There are a lot of books already written with suggestions that those of us who are grieving have […]

Surviving Christmas Now That You Are No Longer Alive

Tweet   Surviving Christmas now that you are no longer alive is a major emotional chore every day. I tried this year.  I bought a tree, it’s rather ugly and sparse but it fit my budget.  I got the decorations out that I used on our small tree in our bedroom because I was always […]

Surviving in the Grief Wilderness

Tweet Surviving in the grief wilderness is hard.  There is no road map, no supplies, no flashlights, no warmth. It is no secret to anyone reading this that I have been living in my own private Hell I call the Grief Wilderness. I have tried so many different ways to help light and smooth out […]