We have a lot of options on Facebook for hiding people for various reasons on Facebook.
- We can hide their posts by choosing the drop down arrow to the far right of their post and take it off our newsfeed.
- We can actually go to their personal timeline wall and using our mouse we can hover over the word “friends” and there is a choice there we can choose. The Facebook default auto sets it to “See in Newsfeed” with a check mark. Uncheck this and poof they won’t show up in your newsfeed any more.
- We can unfriend someone from this same drop down menu in the second choice here.
- We can report and block someone there too.
I rarely want to have to resort to the last two choices for many reasons. First of all I vet people from the get go on Facebook. If I cannot find info about them from their wall due to their security, I will use other means. If we have mutual friends I will check with my friends. If we do not, I may email them and ask why they want to connect. I have also Googled people too.
I also live in a small community so if it is a local person I try really hard to be nice BUT if they cross the line they have to go.
Recently I had a big error in judgement. I had been virtual friends with a woman from the Midwest for quite a while. After about a year of being friends I asked her if she would be an admin on a breast cancer page I have because she seemed to be well-connected with people who post lovely quotes and thoughts and I felt she would be an asset to the page.
She was, you can unfurrow your brows. The page posts she did were good. Her comments were good. The only thing I ever had to say to her was to pull back on the amount of posts because over-posting causes unlikes to pages.
I had an opportunity to meet her because we were both attending an event for a week and when the week was over I shared with my other admins on the page that I would have to be removing her because there were just too many instances of inappropriate comments and too many complaints from others that she made them uncomfortable. I felt bad but this is a clear example that we can all be fooled in virtual friendships.
Unfortunately when we got back home she started to post her experiences from the event and they were inappropriate.
I have a page reputation to maintain and I had to remove her as an admin on the page, she had broken trust.
We were still friends and I really did not want to unfriend her but then complaints started coming to me in private messages that she was friend requesting my friends, and they were uncomfortable with her “inquisitiveness” once they accepted her. My answer to them was the same answer to myself, put on your big girl panties and unfriend her. I took the plunge.
Sometimes you have to just do it…..and really I do not like to do it but as my former partner said about her “There are people (like her) who like to be a victim. It gets them attention even though it is negative attention.”
Yes there are times when you need to unfriend someone for good reasons, this was one of those reasons.
How about you? What pushes your buttons to hit the unfriend choice?