Life is not about just surviving, we all do that in some form. It is about how we thrive after we survive that matters~Carole Sanek

Surviving Wonderful Experiences Category

Tuesday, January 31st, 2012

Surviving Dealing with a Fork in the Road

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I have reached a fork in the road and I am going to have to make a choice of which road to take.  One road could lead to huge opportunities in the social media world meaning nice money in my bank account.  The other road leads to a passion of mine complete with speaking engagements, a possible book, and the opportunity to become “the face” of an international company, and make nice money.

What to do?  Which road do I take?  Me, the woman who has always flown by the seat of her pants, is stuck right now not knowing the answer.  Not that I have to really make a decision right now.  I can pull my feet out of the “stuck” and take baby steps that won’t lead in one direction over the other.  Both involve writing, so I can write my heart out.  Both involve social media but in using it in different ways.  Both involve putting myself out in public more, which is absolutely no problem for moi.

As I write I realize I can do both, I have my answer. I can walk down both roads, it is about balance, it will be about boundary setting but I can do both.  Why would I?  Because I want to -not everyone who reaches a fork in the road wants to take both roads.  I do.  I love a challenge and a wonderful new experience.

 Surviving Dealing with a Fork in the Road
Saturday, December 18th, 2010

More Folger’s Moments

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With humor I will share a story about my own childhood and a moment that then could not have been filmed, but now anything goes now for the most part.

I was probably about 10 years old and it was early Christmas morning.  My bedroom was the entire upstairs of a typical Cape Cod bungalow.  I snuck down the stairs as quietly as I could and tiptoed into the bathroom.

Whoever designed a typical Cape Cod bungalow had a weird sense of design because the only bathroom in this style of  house is dead center to the front door.

I was the first one up and I had to pee.  I went into the dead center bathroom and sat to pee without closing the door.  What child would think to close the door it made noise to close it.  It was about 7AM Christmas morning and who was going to come to the front door that early on a holiday?  Santa had already come and gone. No big deal.

However that morning as I sat on the throne I heard a noise.  I looked and I saw a face.  I know I was mortified.  I know I wished I had closed the door.  I know I wanted to fall through the floor into the basement.

I finished in a hurry – I could hear my parents throwing on their robes and muttering words that were not Christmas season words, after all who would be knocking at our front door on Christmas morning?

My father opened the door and there standing on the porch in her beautiful red coat stood my wonderful, beautiful Grandmother all the way from Florida.  She was our present that day.  Can you smell the Folgers?  She flew all night to be with us for Christmas – remember this was not an era of jet airliners or non-stop flights.

Yes, that story would make a great Folger’s Moment in the Christmas season with a touch of humor of course, and it is a moment I always will remember with love and smiles.  Folgers should contact me!

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Monday, December 6th, 2010

Good News – You Can Go Home Again

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You absolutely can go home again keeping certain things in mind and your mind open to the fact that things do change both for the bad and for the good.

Larry and recently went to my hometown for Thanksgiving.  Going home for a holiday can be a 50/50 proposition in how it will work out.  You cannot go with the expectations that this dinner will be like ones from your childhood or ones you prepared and served.  You are a guest so act like one and everything should be fine.

Don’t drive through your old neighborhood unless your family still lives there.  Change happens and your childhood home probably doesn’t look like the one you grew up in so leave it in your memory box.

Do drive around the town – Larry and I did that and while my memories of downtown Cleveland were dinged by how bleak it looked there is change in the wind for Cleveland so we were able to picture that change which made the desolate and vacant department stores look hopeful.

Larry had never really been to Cleveland before so I took him to a museum I knew he would enjoy and we spent the morning enjoying old automobiles and airplanes at the Crawford Auto and Aviation Museum.  The museum needs some updating but that is also about to happen when they introduce the reconditioned and restored Euclid Beach carousel in it’s own special building.

The drive to the museum took us past The Cleveland Clinic and both of us were amazed at how that campus has changed and grown.  What a shot in the arm for the Euclid/Carnegie corridors.

Our tour took us from the museum to Little Italy and Murray Hill with lunch at a restaurant that has been an Italian landmark for years.  That neighborhood has gone through many changes but is emerging as a place to shop, peruse art in the galleries, and eat.

I drove through other neighborhoods I enjoyed growing up and I am happy to report change is happening in Cleveland for the good.

Every trip home I go visit my friend Koula (Niapas) Lazar who owns a marvelous shop in Ohio City on West 25th Street aptly named “Something Different”.  You always find “something different” when you come to her boutique consignment shop.  In fact her goods center around Cleveland artists and Cleveland in general so I am sending her my grandmother and mother’s vintage jewelry to sell.  It should stay in Cleveland and be worn by a woman who will cherish the pieces.

I came home with two beautiful champagne flutes and because it was my birthday Koula sent me home with two artisan crafted pieces of beautiful jewelry.  They are definitely “something different”.

While we were sitting around watching Koula do what she does best, be a hostess, she asked me about an old friendship of mine.  I said I had not talked to our mutual friend in 15 years.  I picked up the phone and called.  I reached my friend’s husband who talked to me for quite a while and asked me to call back after 5PM when my friend would be awake.  We were nurses together and she works the 12 hour 7-7 at hospice.  I set a reminder in my phone.

Our trip is always complete when we shop at the infamous West Side Market, and shop we did.  We drove so we had a cooler.  Smoked kielbasa, pastas, specialty olives, pierogies and more came home with us.

Pssst – I could live in Cleveland at least 2 months (in the summer) just to shop at the West Side Market and prepare wonderful meals.  I have never had better cuts of meat.

A trip home is what you make it and even though I lived in the burbs there I always explored the entire town so this trip was no exception.

Even though family traditions may have changed and should change as children grow up and start their own traditions, there is nothing like family and the love you give back and forth.  I realize that not everyone has a family to go home to but if you do you this makes going home again special.

Last on the list of any trip anyone makes home is to always eat dinner at one of the best restaurants in town even if it is a new place.  We made plans to start my birthday dinner at Pickwick and Frolics (where I had the best Dirty Martini ever) and finish dinner with friends at Michael Symon’s restaurant Lola.  If you do not cook then you don’t know Symon is an Iron Chef.

As we sat at Pickwick and Frolic, I called my friend, Loretta.  Her husband, Walter, answered and had not told her I had called earlier.  She said “Hello”  I answered “Hello Lo”.  She asked who is this, I laughed and she said “Oh my God, it’s Carole.”  How nice to be remembered for my laugh.  We are in the process of catching up.  One more good reason to go home – find old friends.

The waiter brought me a birthday cheesecake which I gave away to a lovely group from Solon who were heading to the Cav’s game.

Dinner at Lola was divine.  I can’t say enough about how fine that restaurant is and how cool it was to order our wine from an ipad wine list.  Newer friends joined us and we had a wonderful birthday dinner.

There are other things I would recommend – stay in a hotel.  As much as you love your family or your friends it is a disruption of everyone’s schedule to stay in a house unless said house has enough bedrooms and bathrooms of course.  I love my family and I know that in suggesting a hotel my feelings could be misunderstood – it is nothing personal and I have no complaints – I suggest that with their comfort in mind.

In closing if you leave your expectations at home and  act like a guest you should have a marvelous trip and find you can go home again.

 Good News   You Can Go Home Again
Saturday, November 20th, 2010

16+ Things I am Thankful for This Year

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As I approach Thanksgiving (and yes my birthday) this year, I have been thinking back to the beginning of the year.   Even in the midst of the trials and tribulations in this economy, (1) I am in a great place.

My husband lost his job at the end of February.  I was visiting friends and family in Cleveland when this happened which is 1000 miles away.  I could not throw my arms around him till the next day.  It was okay then though and it is even better now.  In fact (2) this was one of the highlights of the year.  At first it was a tad difficult.  I lost my privacy, but (3) I gained a whole new me.  Larry inspires me.  He believes in me in ways no other friend or acquaintance (or former husband/boyfriend) has ever believed.  We  have (4) formed a better partnership in business and (5) in our marriage.  He just went out to gas up my car for our holiday trip to my son’s house, and as he left he told me he is so glad he married me.  I told him I am glad he married me too, and he left laughing.

This new partnership has taken us to (6) new levels of success in our life because we both discovered the most important the key to all we now have and that is giving.  The last 6 letters in the holiday.

We spent time learning (7) our primary love languages and that was a spectacular form of giving.

I went even deeper into this year  and realized that by taking this gift of giving out to the general public (8) my life has become the best ever.  When I laid out certain intentions I wanted to accomplish in the near future one intention was that I wanted to get another offer to emcee an event.  I am doing that.  I was asked to (9) co-chair the American Cancer Society Relay for Life.  This is in addition to the work I do for a highly successful local fashion show for a women’s shelter.

But wait – it gets even better.  After attending our Florida Realtor meeting this summer and taking beaucoup social media marketing classes I became a better (10) “Facebooker”, a better “LinkedIner” and I am working on being a better “Twitterrer”!  I started giving in all these medias and in giving I have been offered (11) an interview on a radio show, and I am (12) even thinking of doing my own radio show.

How did I get that far?  By delving into everything that being social means including being kind and yes, giving.  People find me.  I don’t send friend requests out, they find me.  They like what I write, what I say.

I am very grateful for attending that meeting because it (13) opened a door to me to own a page on Facebook called 365 Things to do in the Greater Tampa Bay Area.  I have become so involved with other people interested in building this page and this page is growing by leaps and bounds.  I am now interviewing people and places that want a “high 5″ from this page.

In the middle of all of this happening people, women in general, (14) came to me asking if I would teach them how I network.  On 1/1/11 I will launch my new business “The Social Butterfly Media Marketing” – don’t even think about trying to borrow that name, I own the domain.  I will be treading lightly and offering consultations to beginners to start with and I will grow as I need to grow.

This all happened because someone I love believes in me which in turn caused me to believe more in myself.

My life is great, it is not perfect but it is great.  I have (15) met many new people who are having a positive impact on my life.  I also know I have had a positive impact on many lives.  Again it about giving.  I give easily and with all my heart.

While there is so much hoopla on gratitude (and I am grateful) I believe giving is gratitude as long as it is given the right way.  The (16) right way is to not expect anything back.

If you have been keeping count I have just given everyone 16 great awakenings I have had this year.  There are more but these are my important ones.

In the spirit of giving I am sharing with everyone that it can be this easy but it might mean trying something new, expanding your horizons and rising to challenges you did not ever think you were capable of – I say go for it!

 16+ Things I am Thankful for This Year
Monday, March 16th, 2009

We Have Lift Off – Thank You NASA

Fact – Discovery could be seen by NASA for 6-7 minutes as it passed by the New York and New Jersey.  Amazing, 6-7 minutes to go that distance.

Here in Florida in the sunset sky we see it for about 30 seconds and it is fantastic to watch.    It is always a miracle to me that we have the technology to get people up in space.  I never take it for granted. 

We stand out in our drive way with a glass of champagne toasting our brave astronauts as they embark on their latest mission.

Last night’s launch according to NASA was the prettiest one ever.   From their viewing point I can see why they would think that, from our vantage point the prettiest ones we get to see are in total darkness.

I watch every landing back on earth too.  Here in Florida the news stations cover it as a picture within a picture on our screens and I still cry every time they land safely. 

There are still amazing things to be thankful for in our country.  This is only one of them.

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